Ain’t That A Mother

Critics Review

• “You’ll immediately be welcomed into Nelson’s life as she shares the truth of her parenting journey—from the highs of loving a child with complex medical needs to the lows of experiencing postpartum depression and the messy state in-between. You’ll laugh, cry, and gain a new appreciation for motherhood.”

  Essence

• “Unflinchingly raw and incredibly funny, Ain’t That A Mother deserves a place on your to-read list this summer.”

  Bustle

• “For a brilliant, genuine, and hilarious voice that feels like a friend’s (Adiba Nelson said writing this book actually felt like a conversation with a friend), look no further than Ain’t That A Mother. Nelson, an author, inspirational speaker, and mother, brings readers into her life as someone striving to be a pillar of confidence for her daughter and for those who find themselves on the margins. Nelson discusses generational curses, being a mother to a child with special needs, her complicated relationship with her own mother, and more with unique candor, optimism, and humor. Even through the difficult times, Nelson comes out swinging and singing—always looking for opportunities to remind her daughter just how perfect she is, how much she loves her, and how she feels so lucky to be her mother.”

  Shondaland

• “Ain’t That A Mother is a treasure-filled gold mine of a book that’ll leave you alternately teary-eyed and clutching your stomach and your pearls. What a clear-eyed, wisdom-filled, heart-led, emotional journey in the shoes of this mama bear, this lover, this advocate, this mover, this passionate woman. Brava!”

  Denene Millner, New York Times bestselling author of My Brown Baby: On the Joys and Challenges of Raising African American Children

• “Adiba Nelson is powerfully funny, unflinchingly honest, and as self-assured as she is self-critical. In this intimate account of raising a child with special needs, Nelson sugarcoats nothing and celebrates her daughter at every turn. As enthralling as a long conversation with an old friend, this book will make you feel seen, trusted, and less alone.”

  Emily Adrian, author of The Second Season

• “How can a book about very difficult things be so funny? Adiba Nelson is a master storyteller, a wise truth-teller, and an all-around joy of a writer. Reading Ain’t That A Mother is akin to spending a week with your most warm, hilarious, kind friend.”

  Joanna Rakoff, international bestselling author of My Salinger Year and A Fortunate Age

• “Ain’t That a Mother is the most honest, most hilarious, most unapologetic book about motherhood I’ve ever read. It’s the book I desperately needed twenty-plus years ago when my mothering journey began. Adiba Nelson’s story of faith, discrimination, trauma, love, loss, and, ultimately, healing, totally reinvents the motherhood memoir. Nelson is a survivor and a masterful storyteller. Her magnificent, unabashed voice and big heart will grab you from the very first page.”

  Deesha Philyaw, author of the National Book Award finalist The Secret Lives of Church Ladies

• “In Ain’t That A Mother, Adiba’s struggles and triumphs come to life on the page. Around every corner she faces another ‘I can’t f’ing believe it’ scenario where she must put up with less than she deserves or push through against her own better judgement. This is a story of a woman taking her destiny into her own hands, finding worth, compassion, and love deep inside, and finally granting herself the fullness of life that she offers so completely to her daughter every day. Adiba is a role model for how to love.”

  Ashleigh Renard, author of Swing

• “Adiba Nelson is all of us. Navigating the intersections of life with sometimes nothing more than hope in one hand and grace in the other. Her authenticity leaps off the page as she expertly affirms for us that grief and joy and every emotion in between can coexist.”

  Tracey Michae'l Lewis-Giggetts, author of Black Joy: Stories of Resistance, Resilience, and Restoration

• “Glowing when its focus is Nelson’s daughter, parenting, and the ableism that she and her daughter dealt with because of her daughter’s high medical needs, this book engages in plain talk about the realities of raising a disabled child in a world that often requires parents to advocate for their basic accessibility and inclusion…Nelson’s blunt honesty, humor, and constant inner voice are vivifying forces…Ain’t That a Mother is a forthright memoir-in-essays about parenting, growth, and love, even in the most uncertain of times.”

  Foreword Reviews

• “The fight for self-love and its impact on parenting is profound. I felt myself cheering for Nelson and her daughter Emory while reflecting on my own experiences. Nelson helps us to question the ‘things we do in life based on personal history and desires for the future’ while she affirms for all of us: ‘I am worthy of more. I am enough.’”

  Linden Review