Bad Friend

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'So many people need this book' HOLLY BOURNE
'Insightful, wise, compassionate' LOUISE O'NEILL
'This book is your new best friend' SOFIE HAGEN
'Truly game-changing. A book we should ALL read' LOUISE PENTLAND

Society's message is loud and clear: romantic relationships matter more than friendship. But when we have an average of twenty-nine platonic relationships in our lifetime, compared to just seven-to-ten romantic relationships, why is the conversation on love far greater than friendship? Life coach and broadcaster Michelle Elman is determined to fix this.

If the conversation on friendship is quiet, the one on friendship break-ups is non-existent. This is despite research showing that only six friendships stand the test of time, which means that the average person experiences the ending of twenty-three friendships. As someone who has gone through a dozen of them, Michelle began to think she was a Bad Friend.

Have one too many friendship break-ups and people start questioning what's wrong with you. But what if you aren't the problem? What if the problem is how we think about friendship break-ups?

Introducing Bad Friend, a ground-breaking masterclass in friendship that makes space for every conversation you have never been allowed to have. Bad Friend will make you question everything you've been taught about friendships, and removes the stigma from friendship break-ups. This is for you if you've ever been hurt by a friend and, most importantly, reassures you that you're categorically not a bad friend.

'It's time for a new narrative around platonic love. I can think of no better person than Michelle to show us the way' MEGAN JAYNE CRABBE

'Female friendships can be core of a healthy, happy, fulfilled life. Their complexities are so often overlooked, but not anymore. Michelle Elman has perfectly summarised their complicated importance. Bravo' ANNA WHITEHOUSE

'The world would be a much better place if every woman read Bad Friend and learned to communicate as clearly and directly as Michelle teaches us to. A game-changer which made me feel a million times better about friendships that have gone wrong in the past, while arming me with the tools I need for the future' ELLIE MIDDLETON

'The guide to friendship breakups we all so desperately need. We've needed this book for years - I'm so happy it finally exists!' SOFIE HAGEN

'This book is a must-read for anyone who's ever questioned a friendship, felt the sting of outgrowing someone, or wondered how to be a better friend themselves' SHIVANI PAU

'This is a long overdue conversation about friendship: the joys, the break ups, the frustrations, and the tricky points of conflict that we all navigate over the course of time' ABIGAIL MANN

'Michelle's writing is my emergency contact - I always come away with pluck in my step and a plan of action' LEENA NORMS

'Michelle's ability to share her wisdom with wit, honesty, and heart - whilst tackling subjects often untouched - is a testament to her generosity and fearless spirit. With a wicked sense of humour, confidence and an uncanny ability to connect with people at every level, Michelle is truly one of a kind' MICHELLE ZELLI

'Michelle is the queen of boundaries' KATIE PIPER

'One of the 50 most influential women in the UK' THE SUN

Critics Review

Friendship breakups are so painful and so many people need this book. Our broken platonic hearts are in such safe hands with Michelle's expert advice and insight
Holly Bourne
Insightful, wise, compassionate. This book is going to help so many people
Louise O'Neill
Michelle's writing is my emergency contact - I always come away with pluck in my step and a plan of action
Lenna Norms
This is a truly game-changing book highlighting the importance and complexities of female friendships. It's a brilliantly researched book, and a book we should ALL read
Louise Pentland
This book is your new best friend. The guide to friendship breakups we all so desperately need. An incredible, no-bullshit, kind and warm guide to navigating the difficulty of friendships ending. We've needed this book for years - I'm so happy it finally exists!
Sofie Hagen
Female friendships can be core of a healthy, happy, fulfilled life. Their complexities are so often overlooked, but not anymore. Michelle Elman has perfectly summarised their complicated importance. Bravo
Anna Whitehouse
It's time for a new narrative around platonic love, and to heal from the wounds those heartbreaks have left. I can think of no better person than Michelle - who loves deeply, heals phenomenally and is truly a great friend - to show us the way
Megan Jayne Crabbe
Michelle is the queen of boundaries
Katie Piper
The world would be a much better place if every woman read Bad Friend and learned to communicate as clearly and directly as Michelle teaches us to. A game-changer which made me feel a million times better about friendships that have gone wrong in the past, while arming me with the tools I need for the future
Ellie Middleton
This book is a must-read for anyone who's ever questioned a friendship, felt the sting of outgrowing someone, or wondered how to be a better friend themselves
Shivani Pau
This is a long overdue conversation about friendship: the joys, the break ups, the frustrations, and the tricky points of conflict that we all navigate over the course of time
Abigail Mann
Michelle's ability to share her wisdom with wit, honesty, and heart - whilst tackling subjects often untouched - is a testament to her generosity and fearless spirit. With a wicked sense of humour, confidence and an uncanny ability to connect with people at every level, Michelle is truly one of a kind
Michelle Zelli

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Really helpful and comfting book, helped me think through and reflect on a friendship situation I was struggling with. I wasn't sure if it would, I am significantly older than the author I think, but I think the advice it contains is applicable across generations!
NancyH 16/06/2025

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