Be Who You Want

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What to expect

What if you could exploit the plasticity of personality to change yourself in specific ways?

Would you choose to become less neurotic? More self-disciplined? Less shy? Until now, a common belief is that we're stuck with what we've been given: the leopard can't change its spots, the introvert will forever hide in shadows, and the narcissist will forever tweet about his brilliance. In Be Who You Want, Dr Christian Jarrett takes readers on a thrilling journey as he explains not only how to anticipate the ways that life events leave their mark, but that we can deliberately shape our personalities to influence the course of our lives.

Dr Jarrett draws on the latest research to provide evidence-based ways to change each of the main five personality traits, including how to become more emotionally stable, extraverted and open-minded. He features compelling stories of people who have achieved profound personality change such as a gang leader turned youth role model, a drug addict turned ultra-runner, and a cripplingly shy teenager turned Hollywood megastar. He also delves into the so-called Dark Triad of personality traits - narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy - and how we might exploit their advantages without ourselves going over to the dark side.

But you don't have to make such dramatic changes to your traits in order to enjoy meaningful benefits in your life. Even modest changes can pay dividends and set up an accumulating cascade of real-life consequences.

Filled with quizzes and interactive exercises to help you better understand the various aspects of your personality, your life story and your passions, Be Who You Want will appeal to anyone who has ever felt constrained by how they've been characterised and wants to pursue lasting change.

Dr Christian Jarrett is Deputy Editor of Psyche, a new digital magazine that illuminates the human condition, from the founders of Aeon. He is an award-winning science writer, the author of several critically acclaimed books including The Rough Guide to Psychology and Great Myths of the Brain, and he was editor and lead contributor for the bestselling 30-Second Psychology.

Critics Review

  • ‘I’m not much of a lover of life coaching and personal growth books. But I found myself consuming Christian Jarrett’s Be Who You Want with gradually increasing fascination and conviction. This is not snake-oil huckstering, or silly salesmanship but plausible and very convincing science. There are enough plums, cherries, raisins and sultanas in this delightful cake to inspire, surprise, motivate and enthuse anyone. Warmly recommended’ – Stephen Fry

  • ‘In this inspiring yet bracingly down-to-earth book, Christian Jarrett shows that positive personality change lies within reach. And since your beliefs about what’s possible are central to what’s actually possible, just reading Be Who You Want should get the improvements started’ – Oliver Burkeman, author of The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking

  • ‘Not many people realize the pervasiveness of personality, not only for your success at school and work, but also for your mental and physical health and even your longevity. In this insightful book, Christian Jarrett shows us how to disrupt old strategies and habits and shape our character for the better. A timely and empowering book, you’ll never think about your personality in the same way again’ – Scott Barry Kaufman, Humanistic Psychologist, host of The Psychology Podcast and author of Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization

  • ‘There is no better guide to the psychology of personality than Christian Jarrett. Be Who You Want is fascinating and revelatory, identifying the many forces that have shaped us – and the practical ways to become a new person. Filled with compassion, wisdom, and optimism, it is essential reading for anyone interested in the science of self-transformation’ – David Robson, author of The Intelligence Trap

  • ‘It’s not an exaggeration to say this book will change your life. Be Who You Want perfectly combines fascinating research, surprising stories, and personal anecdotes to explore how picking your personality can change your daily and long-term outlook. This book is a must-read!’ – Nir Eyal, bestselling author of Indistractable

  • ‘Jarrett makes a persuasive case that personality types are more malleable than we might think’ – Tim Harford, Financial Times

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