Pre-order

Coming of Age

Get in the xigxag app
This book is not purchasable in your country. Please select another book.
Pre-order Buy Now £{{ price }}
How does xigxag pricing work?

Listen to a sample

What to expect

Brought to you by Penguin.

Adolescence is the most dramatic and formative period of our lives: both thrilling and traumatic, it is when we become who we are, when the smallest things can have life-long effects. But it is also full of contradictions, making it bewildering to live through and usually misunderstood in retrospect. We often struggle to connect with the adolescents in our lives, but most of us have yet to come to terms with our own adolescence and how it has shaped who we are.

In this moving, empowering book, which is full of counter-intuitive insights, Lucy Foulkes, an expert in adolescent psychology, draws on the latest studies and in-depth interviews to demystify adolescent behaviours - friendship, bullying, risk-taking, sex, mental illness, love and much more. She unpicks the social hierarchies that colour all of adolescent life and reveals some surprising underlying truths: that as adolescents we are deeply conservative more than we are rebellious; that what seems like recklessness is often calculated and risk-averse; that the same peer influence that can lead to bullying can also be used to prevent it; that popularity is a mixed blessing even while friendship at this time can be a life-changing good. She explains why appearance counts for everything at this age and why we can be so fickle and cruel, but also how adolescents can astound the adults in their lives with their empathy and capacity to support and nurture one another.

If our identities are a story, then the first crucial draft is written in adolescence. This book helps us to read that story - in ourselves and as it is being written in others - helping us to appreciate and accept it and where there is pain to begin to rewrite it.

©2024 Lucy Foulkes (P)2024 Penguin Audio

Critics Review

  • A compelling, useful and fascinating exploration of the emotional earthquake that is adolescence, revealing its unwritten rules and some really vital insights into crossing the rocky terrain between childhood and adulthood

    Jo Brand

  • Lucy Foulkes’s wonderful and deeply moving book shows us the potentially positive aspects of adolescent experiences so often seen as negative and reveals the importance of the stories we tell about ourselves. You will almost certainly find yourself reassessing your own teenage years

    Mark Haddon

  • Wise and compassionate, well-researched and straight-talking – Lucy Foulkes shows with stories and with science why the teen years are so intense, and how today’s adolescents can be helped to flourish in life

    Gavin Francis

  • Foulkes combines firsthand accounts of the transformative experiences of youth, alongside insightful scientific explanations. This captivating and novel approach provides valuable insights into the physical, psychological and emotional changes that teenagers navigate, and fosters a deeper understanding of this crucial stage of self-discovery

    Sarah-Jayne Blakemore, author of Inventing Ourselves: The Secret Life of the Teenage Brain

  • Hopeful, inspiring – whatever happened in your teenage years, Coming of Age gives you power over those experiences to better shape who you are today. Foulkes strikes an elegant balance between story-telling and research studies, interweaving tales from adolescence in teenagers’ own voices with her own insights. Her book leaves you with a greater understanding of your own adolescence, and greater compassion for those currently in its throes

    Camilla Nord, author of The Balanced Brain

More from the same

Author

Narrator

Subscribe to our newsletter

Sign up to get tailored content recommendations, product updates and info on new releases. Your data is your own: we commit to protect your data and respect your privacy.