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Do Ask, Do Tell
- Narrator
- Lotte Jeffs, Stu Oakley
- Publisher
- Pan Macmillan
- Publish Date
- 29 May 2025
- Run Time
- 8 hours 3 minutes
- Format
- Audiobook
What to expect
Read by the authors, Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley.
What is a black cat lesbian? Is ‘aromantic’ a sexuality or a preference? How are bisexual and pansexual different? What’s it like to be queer and religious? Does Gen Z do darkrooms? How do you navigate life as a OAQ (Old Age Queer)? What does trans euphoria feel like? Why is nightlife so central to the community? What is camp today?
As queer people themselves, authors Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley knew they didn’t have all the answers, because their individual experience represents a single pixel of the rainbow. Do Ask, Do Tell is an unapologetically curious journey through the dazzling spectrum of queer life that will give people – queer, straight, cis and everything in-between – the confidence to say 'I don’t know'.
With humor, warmth, and radically open minds, Stu and Lotte tackle the questions you may have avoided asking for fear of getting it wrong. Covering everything from ageing to open relationships, darkrooms to Drag Kings, camp to carabinas, as well as the intricacies of gender and sexuality.
This insightful and provocative exploration challenges assumptions, shatters taboos, and opens up the conversation. Whether you’re seeking clarity for your cis straight self or deeper insight as a member of the community, this book is your guide to better understanding and celebrating the richness of queer life.
Critics Review
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Written with warmth, wisdom and uncompromising wit, Jeffs & Oakley invite us to explore the bold and beautiful realities of queer existence in an ever-increasingly intolerant world.
Charlie Condou
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Both a beginner’s guide and a deep dive.
Attitude
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This warm, funny read tackles the questions you may have avoided asking for fear of getting it wrong.
Good Housekeeping
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Bold, funny and radically honest.
Gaydio
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Essential reading. An absolute ride through queer culture with some unreal insights.
Glyn Fussell
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Written with warmth, wisdom and uncompromising wit, Jeffs & Oakley invite us to explore the bold and beautiful realities of queer existence in an ever-increasingly intolerant world
Charlie Condou
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Bursting with empathy, understanding and humour. A crucial book for our community and allies.
Suzi Ruffell
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Details
- Author
- Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley
- Narrator
- Lotte Jeffs, Stu Oakley
- Duration
- 8 hours 3 minutes
- Release Date
- 29 May 2025
- ISBN
- 9781035042081
- Format
- Audiobook
- Publisher
- Pan Macmillan
- Genre
- LGBTQIA+ Studies / topics, Sex and sexuality, social aspects, Gender studies: ‘trans’, transgender people and gender variance, Social and cultural history
Synopsis
Read by the authors, Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley.What is a black cat lesbian? Is ‘aromantic’ a sexuality or a preference? How are bisexual and pansexual different? What’s it like to be queer and religious? Does Gen Z do darkrooms? How do you navigate life as a OAQ (Old Age Queer)? What does trans euphoria feel like? Why is nightlife so central to the community? What is camp today?As queer people themselves, authors Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley knew they didn’t have all the answers, because their individual experience represents a single pixel of the rainbow. Do Ask, Do Tell is an unapologetically curious journey through the dazzling spectrum of queer life that will give people – queer, straight, cis and everything in-between – the confidence to say 'I don’t know'.With humor, warmth, and radically open minds, Stu and Lotte tackle the questions you may have avoided asking for fear of getting it wrong. Covering everything from ageing to open relationships, darkrooms to Drag Kings, camp to carabinas, as well as the intricacies of gender and sexuality.This insightful and provocative exploration challenges assumptions, shatters taboos, and opens up the conversation. Whether you’re seeking clarity for your cis straight self or deeper insight as a member of the community, this book is your guide to better understanding and celebrating the richness of queer life.
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