He/She/They

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How can we change the conversation around gender, become better allies, challenge misconceptions, and make the world a better place?

Gender is a human experience, not just a trans experience. Every single one of us has a relationship with gender that we must begin to reckon with.

He/She/They is Schuyler Bailar's empowering, essential, and urgent guide to understanding gender identity. As a transgender man, inclusion advocate, and LGBTQ+ educator, Schuyler inspires hope and much-needed positive change - he encourages personal reflection and exploration so that every human can be the most compassionate, most authentic version of themselves - and most importantly, become better trans allies in the process.

Schuyler equips readers with essential trans and gender literacy through empowering and informative stories from his own experiences, as well as those of other trans and non-binary individuals around the world. This urgent, hopeful guide will shift the conversation around gender and allow all readers to better understand what gender is and how to talk about it at this critical moment.

He/She/They is a vital, supportive, and life-affirming resource for anyone questioning their gender identity or trying to understand it better.

©2023 Schuyler Bailar (P)2023 Penguin Audio

Critics Review

  • Trans and gender-fluid teens will see themselves in Bailar’s meaningful work, and cis
    teens will find essential information on being a good ally

    Booklist (Starred Review)

  • This book is informative, fabulous to read, and leaves the reader with information, joy and proactive ways to get involved in what is one of the most important human rights conversations of our time. I love this book!

    Jonathan Van Ness

  • This book is so necessary … I know I speak for trans people everywhere when I say, no one is better suited to this than Schuyler. He is the master of accessible, inclusive and entertaining explainers

    Freddy McConnell, author and journalist

  • He/She/They is a beautiful, embracing, and compassionate book for those wanting to explore their own, or another’s gender identity

    Jamie Windust, Author & Broadcaster, Contributing Editor at Gay Times

  • Through this heart-holding educational memoir, Schuyler Bailar swims through a sea of hate and misinformation – preaching love and learning. Schuyler’s words seek to challenge power and connect to those who really need it. And that’s what we need right fucking now

    Radam Ridwan (@radamridwan), trans non-binary content creator, author of 'The Lockdown Lookbook'

  • Courageous and heartwarming, He/She/They sheds light on the journey of gender discovery and acceptance. A must-read for anyone seeking understanding, compassion, and hope on the path to self-discovery

    Jazz Jennings, [she/her], activist, television personality, and author

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