How to Be The Grown-Up

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What to expect

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Drawing on her years of experience as a clinical psychologist, as well as her growing and dedicated social media community, Dr Martha Deiros Collado's first book is the must-have toolkit for any parent.

Martha understands the many modern-day parenting struggles and worries we all face:

  • How can I make my child listen to me?
  • Can I stop a tantrum in its tracks?
  • What can I do when my child feels sad?
  • Why does my child only eat three very particular things without having a meltdown?
  • What should I do when I lose my sh*t?

With humour, boundless energy, wit and warmth, Dr Martha tackles it all; from how to talk about honesty and lies, death, co-parenting, consent, gender, attachment, boundaries, and tantrums, as well as the small but critical day to day challenges parents face. And she explains why beneath each dilemma, it's the behaviours and scripts we learned as children that shape the parents we become.
This deceptively simple and always empathetic guide promises to become the new word of mouth 'must have' for parents or any grown-up interested in what makes a healthy, happy, confident parent and child.

©2023 Martha Deiros Collado (P)2023 Penguin Audio

Critics Review

  • Down to earth, anchored in compassion and completely do-able, Dr Martha gives real answers to all the questions every parent wants to know.

    Suzy Reading, chartered psychologist, author of Stand Tall Like a Mountain

  • This book is an essential guide for all parents. Empowering, empathetic and educational. It has helped me to think more deeply about my own parenting, and understand myself better.

    Clare Bourne, author of Strong Foundations

  • Martha is my go-to expert for parenting. This book is full of real life examples, lived experiences, useful strategies and so much reassurance

    Charlotte Stirling-Reed, bestselling author of How to Wean Your Baby

  • A wonderful and compassionate resource based on sound evidence. I would be recommending this to parents lots when I worked with children.

    Emma Hepburn, clinical psychologist and author of A Toolkit for Modern Life

  • Martha has a magic way of connecting to the parent, I felt like she was speaking directly to me throughout. She addresses many of the most daunting and overwhelming challenges of parenting and dilutes them with her wonderful understanding and strategies. This is a book I will refer to again and again.

    Carla Freeman

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