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What to expect

‘It’s the kind of book that makes you wonder, ‘why wasn’t this written before?’ It could change lives’ EVENING STANDARD

‘Turns everything you’ve been taught about sex on its head’

An urgent, myth-busting book that dismantles sex misinformation and reimagines sexual freedom for today.

Clueless about everything from her own anatomy to relationships, Sophia Smith Galer’s sex education classes left her with more questions than answers. But what she didn’t know was that this lack of knowledge was about to turn her life upside down – as it does to countless people in the UK every year.

Thanks to inadequate sex education, many of us are finishing school knowing more about STDs and condoms than the bigger sexual picture – our own physicality, pleasure and consent. And the effects can last a lifetime.

In Losing It, Smith Galer shares the eye-opening stories of ordinary people affected by sex misinformation and finds that many of us are unable to access the world of sexual freedom that we’ve been promised. She draws on her own experiences – and the expertise of a new generation of sex educators – to uncover a world that subscribes to a wide catalogue of sex myths. This book tackles:

  • The Virginity Myth: Does having sex for the first time alter us biologically?
  • The Sexlessness Myth: Who is abstaining and why?
  • The Virility Myth: Why do men feel so much pressure to have sex?
  • The Consent Myth: Is there more to it than just saying no?

Losing It challenges the status quo and empowers people from all backgrounds and any age to rewrite the story of their sex lives.

Critics Review

  • I can’t tell you how much I needed a book like this growing up’

    Many books claim to be myth-busting, but this terrific debut truly is ... Essential reading for anyone whose sex education and formative sexual experiences were distinctly lacking. Most of us, in other words.’ THE BOOKSELLER ‘EDITOR’S CHOICE’

    “A compassionate, vibrant, deftly argued call to reclaim our sexual pleasure and body autonomy from ingrained myths and misbeliefs. Smith Galer’s rigorously researched book is an urgently needed, unputdownable joy – and a triumph.”

    ‘A stunning debut from Sophia Smith Galer, ‘Losing It’ is not only a call to arms, but a forceful affirmation of what we owe to one another – good sex and healthy relationships’

    ‘Compelling, informative, compassionate: Sophia has done an incredible job tackling the myths and stories our society tell around sex – I wish I’d had this book to read a decade ago!’ Yassmin Abdel-Magied

    ‘Sophia Smith Galer is one of the UK’s most impressive young journalists, and here’s further proof of her talents – Losing It is a compelling book, full of persuasive, punchy prose’

    ‘A daring and eloquently written book, Sophia Smith Galer changes the course of conversation around our sexual lives from myth and taboo to equality and truths, using very real and honest ideas. With statistics to smash our warped view of topics such as virginity and consent, this is a must read

    ‘Sophia Smith Galer is one of the most innovative and exciting new voices in British journalism. With compassion, intelligence, and engrossing storytelling, she explores the power dynamics of sexual relationships and deconstructs the many stubborn myths that have lingered into the 21st century … It is essential and empowering reading’

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