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Losing It

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What to expect

‘It’s the kind of book that makes you wonder, ‘why wasn’t this written before?’ It could change lives’ EVENING STANDARD

‘Turns everything you’ve been taught about sex on its head’ RUBY RARE

What lies are we told when it comes to sex?

What impossible expectations pollute our health, our happiness and our access to fundamental human rights?

Bringing together deep research with intimate, real stories – from women who pay thousands for hymen reconstruction to men who fear their inexperience defines them – this is a revitalisation of sex education for the twenty-first century.

Critics Review

  • ‘I can’t tell you how much I needed a book like this growing up’
    KATE LISTER, TELEGRAPH, FOUR STARS

    ‘It’s the kind of book that makes you wonder, ‘why wasn’t this written before?’ It could change lives’
    EVENING STANDARD

    ‘More of us are having open conversations about consent and pleasure. Losing It is a valuable part of that conversation’
    THE TIMES

    ‘Urgent, myth-busting’
    REFINERY 29

    ‘Optimistic … Smith Galer is at her best when writing about the global picture, and she includes some fascinating interviews with women from across the world’
    NEW STATESMAN

    ‘Many books claim to be myth-busting, but this terrific debut truly is … Essential reading for anyone whose sex education and formative sexual experiences were distinctly lacking. Most of us, in other words.’ THE BOOKSELLER ‘EDITOR’S CHOICE’

    ‘A stunning debut … Not only a call to arms, but a forceful affirmation of what we owe to one another – good sex and healthy relationships’
    FERN RIDELL

    ‘Compassionate, vibrant, deftly argued … Smith Galer’s rigorously researched book is an urgently needed, unputdownable joy – and a triumph’
    ELINOR CLEGHORN

    ‘Turns everything you’ve been taught about sex on its head’
    RUBY RARE

    ‘Compelling, informative, compassionate: Sophia has done an incredible job tackling the myths and stories our society tell around sex – I wish I’d had this book to read a decade ago!’
    YASSMIN ABDEL-MAGIED

    ‘Sophia Smith Galer is one of the UK’s most impressive young journalists, and here’s further proof of her talents… A compelling book, full of persuasive, punchy prose’
    GREG JENNER

    ‘A daring and eloquently written book … With statistics to smash our warped view of topics such as virginity and consent, this is a must read’
    PATSY STEVENSON

    ‘With compassion, intelligence, and engrossing storytelling … It is essential and empowering reading’
    DAVID ROBSON

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