Love by Design

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What to expect

‘A revelatory re-conceptualization of how we create love’ Dr Emily Nagoski

We are so used to hearing that ‘love is blind’, ‘you will know when you meet the one’ and that love should be ‘unconditional’. However, are these idioms the best way to secure successful lasting relationships? Or might we have been given the wrong handbook for love?

Dr Sara Nasserzadeh invites us to re-examine our beliefs – mainly shaped by an outdated, static and haphazard Western idea of romantic love – and empowers us with six core principles – Attraction, Respect, Trust, Shared Vision, Compassion, Loving Behaviours – to create and sustain meaningful relationships through a new paradigm of love: The Emergent Love Model.

This ground-breaking book introduces and offers an entirely new language and set of skills to begin designing the love that you truly desire.

Critics Review

  • ‘A revelatory re-conceptualization of how we create love.’ – Dr. Emily Nagoski, bestselling author of Come As You Are and Burnout

    ‘In Love by Design, Dr. Nasserzadeh brings us the concept of Emergent Love, a product of years of research and practice, and breaks down why we need to disengage from the enmeshed model of romantic love we see in the movies and move to an exciting but more sustainable way of perceiving and living love.’ – Guy Winch, TED Speaker and author of How to Fix A Broken Heart

    ‘At last! At last! For so many years we have been waiting for a realistic, effective, powerful way to make love work. Sara Nasserzadeh takes the wisdom of ages and recreates it to be effective in our own time, supported by evidence-based research and a solid foundation in her ground-breaking work helping couples be happy together.’ – Susan Quilliam, author of the revised The Joy of Sex

    ‘An essential read for those looking to cultivate connected and fulfilling intimate relationships. Her model of emergent love will transform how you enter your next relationship or enliven the one you are in. I will be recommending this book for years to come.’ – Alexandra H. Solomon, bestselling author of Love Every Day, and host of the podcast, Reimagining Love

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