‘A breath-taking piece of work: tragic, terrifying and gripping as any novel, but ultimately, thanks to Rosenfeld’s clear-eyed psychoanalytical honesty, also deeply consoling. I don’t think writers or human beings can share their experience more movingly and generously than this.’

‘A brave and beautifully-written account of an experience usually shrouded in silence. This is such an intelligent and honest book.’

‘A masterpiece… bold and accessible.’

‘A beautifully written, profoundly moving and immersive account of grief that will bring solace to readers who have been bereaved, and guide anyone who knows them, who feels at a loss how to understand what they are going through. Which pretty much means all of us, at some point in our lives.’

‘Rarely has the physical nature of memory of the dead been so well written about.’

‘This powerfully written book has much to say both to the bereaved and to those working with them about loss and how we can come to live with it, lovingly, as we once lived with the one who has died.’

‘Great stories – entertaining but not patronising’