We Could Have Been Friends, My Father and I

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2023 National Book Award Finalist for Nonfiction

A subtle psychological portrait of the author’s relationship with his father during the twentieth-century battle for Palestinian human rights

Aziz Shehadeh was many things: lawyer, activist, and political detainee. He was also the father of bestselling author and activist Raja. In this searingly personal memoir, Raja Shehadeh unpicks the snags and complexities of their relationship.

A vocal and fearless opponent, Aziz resists under the British mandatory period, then under Jordan, and, finally, under Israel. As a young man, Raja fails to recognize his father’s courage, and in turn, his father does not appreciate Raja’s own efforts in campaigning for Palestinian human rights. When Aziz is murdered in 1985, it changes Raja irrevocably.

This is not only the story of the battle against the various oppressors of the Palestinians but also a moving portrait of a particular father and son relationship.

Critics Review

  • “Profoundly personal as well as historically significant…Illustrates how being dispossessed and being occupied are not merely legal or political conditions.”

    New York Times Book Review
  • “Raja’s memoir is a vital history of Aziz’s overlooked achievements; but it is also a son’s love letter to his father.”

    Harper's
  • “A striking story of loss, heartbreak, and political perfidy.”

    Irish Times (Dublin)
  • “Absolutely gripping…His masterly, remorseless selection and accumulation of detail builds an unanswerable case against Palestine’s historic and current oppressors.”

    The Guardian (London)
  • “This is a Palestinian memoir that will endure.”

    Church Times
  • “Shehadeh movingly blends the personal and political in this heartfelt take on his complex relationship with his lawyer father.”

    Publishers Weekly (starred review)

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