When the Parents Change, Everything Changes

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Your behaviour is the only behaviour over which you have absolute control. To change your children's behaviour, you first need to change your own.

The culture of any home is determined by the parents. If you can remain unflappably calm in the face of every supermarket tantrum and sarcastic eye-roll, order will soon follow.

Here, Paul Dix - Britain's leading children's behaviour expert - reveals how to build a culture of calm consistency into your home, starting today. He explains how you really can maintain a sense of Zen-like serenity in the face of even the most chaotic behaviour, from school-gate screaming matches to mealtime childmageddon. And he offers a set of simple strategies for coolly getting the behaviour you want - without a barked instruction, deranged punishment or cold, hard cash-bribe in sight.

His tried-and-tested method will change what your child does by first changing what you do. You will never need to raise your voice again.

©2023 Paul Dix (P)2023 Penguin Audio

Critics Review

  • This book is an absolute game-changer. Paul manages to impart practical wisdom about our behaviour as parents – and how small changes have huge impacts – without ever sounding preachy. I laughed, nodded, winced a few times and most importantly felt inspired to make slow, incremental changes to how we do things in our house. Warm, funny and extraordinarily helpful. A must-read for anyone who looks after children.

    SARAH TURNER, aka The Unmumsy Mum

  • In this fantastic book Paul empowers us parents to put our energy and focus where we can have the most influence: over our own behaviour. With wit and warmth, he teaches us the most miraculous thing – that when we change, our children change too. This is a book every parent needs to read.

    Zoe Blaskey, creator of Motherkind

  • Many of us have children. Not enough of us truly parent. In this transformative book, Paul Dix offers a simple method to revolutionise the culture in your home – one that will change your children’s behaviour and yours. He gets it: the most important part of high performance is high-performance parenting, and this book shows you how to get there.

    Jake Humphrey, author of High Performance

  • A highly practical, down-to-earth, well-reasoned book. It would enrich the parenting of anyone.

    Barry Carpenter OBE, Professor of Mental Health in Education, Oxford Brookes University

  • Paul Dix has an approach that I love: he understands that when you see a child differently, you see a different child. For years he has been passionate about supporting teachers and children in the classroom, and in this brilliant book he shares his valuable insights to support families too.

    KATE SILVERTON, author of No Such Thing as 'Naughty'

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