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You’re Not the Problem
- Narrator
- Helen Villiers, Katie McKenna
- Publisher
- Hodder & Stoughton
- Publish Date
- 11 April 2024
- Run Time
- 7 hours 49 minutes
- Format
- x-book®
- Genre
- Sociology: family, kinship and relationships, Psychiatric and mental disorders, Personality traits / Personality types, Coping with / advice about mental health issues or topics, Intergenerational relationships: advice, topics and issues, Assertiveness, motivation, self-esteem and positive mental attitude
- Rating
- 4.5 (2 reviews)
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What to expect
'Helen & Katie's advice will change your life. It did mine.' - Kay Allinson, co-founder of Pinch of Nom
This book will show you what a narcissist looks like and how their emotional abuse impacts the lives and relationships of their families.
Many emotionally abusive behaviours from parent to child have become socially acceptable; because they're so prolific, they're normalised. Furthermore, humans often repeat relational patterns, passing the baton of trauma from generation to generation, until someone decides to change things. You're Not the Problem shows you how to recognise these behaviours and realise the profound impact they have had, and still have, and to see the patterns they form in our relationships with parents, partners, friends and colleagues. Using stories and examples from their clinical experience and extensive research, psychotherapists Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna share:
· What Narcissistic Personality Disorder is
· How to recognise emotional abuse in family relationships
· The immediate and long-term impact
· Practical strategies for healing
· How to avoid repeating these behaviours
With a compassionate, sympathetic approach to looking at your familial patterns, Villiers and McKenna show you how to truly break free from these toxic relationships and reclaim your life.
Critics Review
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Helen & Katie's advice will change your life. It did mine.
Kay Allinson, co-founder of Pinch of Nom
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This book genuinely had me engulfed all week... love the book
Shay, Kaur, Grewal, BBC Radio London
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A fantastic book, almost so detailed that we would have to go back to it time and time again
Oliver Callan, RTE Radio 1
User Reviews
Book 4.5
Narration 3.5
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4.0 2.0
Great book really helped but they spoke really fast in the narration apart from that good
Woodyjim07 2026-06-16 -
5.0 5.0
This book is everything. I'm so glad I finally decided to buy this audiobook rather than doubting my choice. If you listen to Helen and Katie's podcast "Insight" then you will know they will speak compassionately and with authority on the trauma so many of us suffered as children and why we are the way we are..
The strength to having their approach laid out like this is in its impact - point after point hit me in the inner child. I'm lucky and grateful that I have healed enough to allow the waves to wash over me and feel stronger for it, but I'm not sure I could have coped with listening to it so quickly if I was starting out on my journey.freddyg 2024-09-26
Details
- Author
- Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna
- Narrator
- Helen Villiers, Katie McKenna
- Duration
- 7 hours 49 minutes
- Release Date
- 11 April 2024
- ISBN
- 9781399719254
- Format
- x-book®
- Publisher
- Hodder & Stoughton
- Genre
- Sociology: family, kinship and relationships, Psychiatric and mental disorders, Personality traits / Personality types, Coping with / advice about mental health issues or topics, Intergenerational relationships: advice, topics and issues, Assertiveness, motivation, self-esteem and positive mental attitude
- Rating
- 4.5(2 reviews)
- Narration
- 3.5(2 reviews)
Synopsis
The Instant Sunday Times Bestseller & Top 10 Irish Bestseller'Helen & Katie's advice will change your life. It did mine.' - Kay Allinson, co-founder of Pinch of NomThis book will show you what a narcissist looks like and how their emotional abuse impacts the lives and relationships of their families.Many emotionally abusive behaviours from parent to child have become socially acceptable; because they're so prolific, they're normalised. Furthermore, humans often repeat relational patterns, passing the baton of trauma from generation to generation, until someone decides to change things. You're Not the Problem shows you how to recognise these behaviours and realise the profound impact they have had, and still have, and to see the patterns they form in our relationships with parents, partners, friends and colleagues. Using stories and examples from their clinical experience and extensive research, psychotherapists Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna share: · What Narcissistic Personality Disorder is· How to recognise emotional abuse in family relationships· The immediate and long-term impact · Practical strategies for healing· How to avoid repeating these behaviours With a compassionate, sympathetic approach to looking at your familial patterns, Villiers and McKenna show you how to truly break free from these toxic relationships and reclaim your life.
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